If final 12 months was Hot Girl Summer, 2020 is the summer time of pussy.
Not simply any pussy — pussy that’s dripping moist and wanting. Pussy that serves its proprietor and nobody else. Unruly pussy.
It’s “WAP,” however it’s not solely “WAP.” It’s additionally “Pussy Talk” by City Girls, with close-ups of crotches. And it’s younger girls on TikTook — from nobodies to verified stars — gleefully lip-synching to the phrases “I got that good pussy” alongside to ppcocaine’s “For That Cash.”
We’ve been on our method right here for some time, reaching again to ’90s women-led rap and even two years in the past when Tessa Thompson joyfully popped her head out from between Janelle Monáe’s labia pants within the video for “Pynk.” Finally, pussy is getting its due.
I used to actually hate the phrase “pussy.” Like, in any context. Whether to actually describe mine or a associate’s vagina and vulva combo, or genitals extra usually, or particularly as an insult. It simply sounds crude. The type of phrase some idiotic teen boy would use when making an attempt to really feel like an enormous, unhealthy man round his equally idiotic associates.
“Vagina” simply sounds too scientific so I took to only beating across the bush, even within the absence of precise bush. You can actually get away with quite a bit by simply saying “you” or “there” or “me.” People get it, you already know? Context clues can go a good distance. And hey, it’s not like I stooped to one thing as juvenile as “va-jay-jay” or as terrible as being a white girl who says “yoni.” And no, it’s not truthful that these are our solely choices, however I did my finest to work with what I had.
But I used to be unsuitable, I used to be foolish, and I used to be denying myself absolutely the pleasure of reveling in a phrase like “pussy.” “Pussy” is enjoyable. “Pussy” is squishy and plump and plush and moist. “Pussy” is a phrase ideally stated with moist lips as you purse them for that preliminary “p” then linger for a second within the hiss of these S’s. “Pussy” is a good looking phrase for each cause I used to be afraid of it. It’s not correct and personal the best way “vagina” is. It has presence, it calls for consideration, and it refuses to be neat. You can’t tuck away a pussy.
“Pussy” doesn’t simply describe what we consider as feminine genitalia — it describes one thing unruly, and unruly pussy is having a second. The phrase “wet-ass pussy” is caught in everybody’s heads due to Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion, however it didn’t begin with them.
“Pussy” is a phrase ideally stated with moist lips as you purse them for that preliminary “p” then linger for a second within the hiss of these S’s.
Rather than the hush-hush angle society has historically reserved for any dialogue of feminine anatomy and its relationship to pleasure, we’re now speaking about moist pussies. Fat pussies. Labia that may’t be contained by no matter scant strip of lace Victoria’s Secret has on supply. We’re speaking about FUPAs (that’s, the fats upper-pussy space) with love and tenderness. It’s in music, it’s on TikTook, and it’s — importantly! — popping out of the mouths of people that even have vaginas.
This is all very thrilling as a result of historically pussies are imagined to be well mannered. That is, small, tight, and with labia that neatly tucks away like a bit of little bit of origami. They can get moist, however solely moist sufficient for the consolation of a penis. Clits are supposed to be current but additionally not giant, and positively not tucked away in folds in order that they require precise effort to find. The mons pubis ought to be a flat aircraft proper from stomach button to clit hood. And, importantly, they’re all connected to white our bodies and are available solely in shades of blush, bubblegum, and child pink.
Anyone who’s seen a vulva or two within the wild would know that’s all bullshit. Or, a minimum of, you’d hope so.
So again to “WAP.” Perhaps the funniest response to it, amid a sea of pearl-clutching from cis males, was from right-wing commentator Ben Shapiro. After a dramatic studying of the lyrics, he tweeted that, in response to his physician spouse, any lady that wanted a “bucket and a mop” for his or her pussy had “bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection, or trichomonis.”
He absolutely is aware of Cardi and Megan didn’t imply the road actually. But clearly he finds the picture of a drenched pussy to be obscene. And that’s most likely as a result of vaginal secretion, a factor that comes so naturally your pussy might be secreting stuff proper now, continues to be taboo. As Jen Gunter, a gynecologist and creator of The Vagina Bible, lately wrote for the New York Times: “Vaginal wetness, especially during sex, has long been erroneously considered a sign of previous sexual activity, which implies promiscuity.”
And but “To be a woman and to partner with men is to constantly walk the edge of the knife between too wet and too dry,” Gunter wrote. “Gush on command, but not too much because then you’re promiscuous or gross or both.”
And that’s why “WAP” is so vital. Cardi and Megan shot straight previous regular vaginal lubrication (which, by the best way, varies an entire bunch — that’s why you should purchase lube!) to gushing. As in, “It’s goin’ in dry and it’s comin’ out soggy” and “I’m talkin’ wap, wap, wap, that’s some wet-ass pussy.” Even the radio-friendly model lyrics, “wet and gushy,” are good. When the hell have vagina homeowners ever gotten to have a good time being not simply adequately moist, however gushy?
“WAP” isn’t the primary tune about pussy — not by an extended shot. Black girls rappers have been getting poetic about their vaginas for many years. Remember Khia’s “My Neck, My Back”?
“I don’t get the controversy hype because I’m almost 40, and I grew up with Trina and Lil’ Kim and Foxy Brown and Missy rapping and talking about their sexuality,” stated Dirty Lola, a intercourse educator and intercourse toy vendor I spoke to about this second of unruly pussy. “We’ve been doing this before.”
She stated Black girls, specifically, have led pussy music as a result of many Black ladies are informed from childhood to be ashamed of their our bodies and their sexuality.
When the hell have vagina homeowners ever gotten to have a good time being not simply adequately moist, however gushy?
“It’s rebellion. We grow up being told that you have to be a lady, to put on shorts when you’re a little girl around men,” stated Lola. “Everyone knows that uncle to keep you away from, but nobody does anything about that uncle. Like, look at R. Kelly.”
Black girls, she stated, additionally get fetishized and hypersexualized in a method different girls don’t. Through music, Black girls can combat again in opposition to these messages by reclaiming their sexuality whereas additionally saying “this doesn’t mean you get to hurt us or treat us poorly because we are sexual beings,” she stated.
“WAP” nonetheless hits totally different, although. Maybe it’s pandemic boredom, or the relative fame of the ladies who created it, or the truth that we’ve come far sufficient that “WAP” isn’t being so censored which you can’t hear it in any respect.
But it’s additionally that we’re in a specific time and place in relation to how we speak about our our bodies. Body-positive, fat-positive, and sex-positive actions, which have additionally relied on the work of Black girls, have introduced us to a spot the place we may give a hearty fuck-you to pussy beliefs that might put us in tiny, pink bins.
Over on TikTook, I’ve observed a development of Gen Z’ers with vaginas speaking not nearly pussy usually, however about how their pussies don’t match the normal commonplace.
There’s a viral TikTook of a girl saying, “So y’all trying to tell me that my coochie can fit in that? My coochie lips — both of ‘em. I’ve got two of them now. Both of them are going to fit in that? I don’t think so.” Behind her is an image of Blac Chyna carrying a really, very high-cut bathing go well with that covers her vulva with nothing however a small strip. Whether resulting from Photoshop or luck-of-the-draw anatomy, there’s no seen labia, hair, or mons pubis.
People have been taking the audio and utilizing it to indicate off different feats of vagina-adjacent attire, like a thong with a string of pearls for the crotch, or simply Victoria’s Secret’s basic choices.
“I remember feeling I was because I’m fat, I don’t deserve pretty underwear,” stated Lola. “Nobody ever said these aren’t panties for you. We just felt bad about our bodies.”
And it’s not simply the pussy itself — I’ve additionally seen TikToks celebrating the FUPA, of which I’m additionally a proud proprietor. A “FUPA” is meant to be a nasty factor, an insult for an space that very naturally accumulates fats. It is part of my physique that I nonetheless take pains to cowl, as if the suitable mixture of material will make it disappear. It’s why I don’t personal any pencil skirts and why I’m scared of high-waisted denims.
But as TikTook consumer @reduce.cake says, individuals understand it’s there. You can’t cover it.
“I say wear that FUPA with pride. Tuck that T-shirt in. Wear that crop top. Wear that tight skirt. Give the fuckers something to look at.”
There’s additionally an entire class of TikToks that present individuals not solely accepting their FUPAs, however having fun with them. Slowly pulling up and zipping their denims over their superb mound with delight. Maybe I’ve simply been taking a look at all of the unsuitable issues, however why did it take till my thirties for somebody to inform me I may like my FUPA?
Clearly one thing has modified if younger persons are reaching maturity figuring out that it’s okay if their vulvas aren’t porn-star good.
This too has been a piece in progress as we reclaim our FUPAs. Back in 2018, Beyoncé talked to Vogue about her post-baby physique, saying, “But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.” While a lot of our FUPAs are neither little nor temporary nor about to be blasted away by hard-core dieting and exercise, I appreciate the sentiment all the same. Still, though, if you google “FUPA,” you’re both going to get stated Beyoncé interview or train guides to eliminate a FUPA. Again, it’s a piece in progress.
If something is totally different proper now, on this time, it’s that it seems like we’re shifting from merely accepting our unruly pussies to celebrating them. To truly having fun with having interior labia that don’t keep in, or getting so moist that it will get everywhere in the sheets, or having lips that flush a purple-brown as an alternative of pink.
Look, 2020 has been an enormous ol’ rubbish fireplace, but when we come out of this 12 months having the ability to speak about our large, juicy, untamable pussies, a minimum of that shall be one thing. ●